Equ(al)ity


 


I was quite certain that every woman at least once  would have wished she was a man. But can we say the same thing about men???

I made this one statement and BOOMMM came the response from Ji. His point was that just like women have problems, even men do. And of course every man would have at least once wished he was a woman. We had this real serious argument and then we decided to put a stop to it.

And today I have come to agree that men have their own problems. May not be as much as women do, but even men do.  I had read  this poem which very beautifully brought out the feelings of men and here it is.

 

For every woman who is tired of acting weak when she knows she is strong, there is a man who is tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable.

For every woman who is tired of acting dumb, there is a man who is burdened with the constant expectation of “knowing everything.”

For every woman who is tired of being called “an emotional female,” there is a man who is denied the right to weep and to be gentle.

For every woman who is called unfeminine when she competes, there is a man for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity.

For every woman who feels “tied down” by her children, there is a man who is denied the full pleasures of shared 
parenthood.

For every woman who is denied meaningful employment or equal pay, there is a man who must bear full financial responsibility for another human being.

And it was only after reading this,  that I realized that men do have issues. And the society puts so much pressure on each one of us that we forget who we really are or who we really want to be. It is always WHO WE SHOULD BE. The stereotype image really influences us so much that we are too scared to be anything beyond that. We miss doing things that we probably would have done if there were no expectations. I know so many men who chose a career only because it earns them good money, so that their family can have a good life. Given a chance, they would probably be doing something that we would least expect. That is how bizarre all of us are, but we constantly keep fooling ourselves. This is just one such things that I have stated about what men go through… There are many more…

Hahhaa,  I am sure you have started to wonder…..  Hmmmm.. Wasn’t she talking about women wanting to be men… and now here she is talking only about men :P

Well, Yes!!! I still have not finished. I wanted us to empathize and not just be talking about what women have been going through. Women have definitely had a tough time. Too many rules and too many eyes keeping a watch on us. Sometimes it feels as though we are incapable of taking any decision on our own. We women are more vulnerable (or we make ourselves) and get succumbed too easily.  But i must admit that things have definitely changed for good over the years.We have come a long way, though we are still not in a position to stand up for our rights. Guess it would take time.

I would never say that men and women are equal. We can never be equal!!! We complement each other. And this is the beauty of the relationship that we should all probably appreciate. We fail to do that. We should fight for equity and not equality. Wanting to do everything that a man does would make us look crazy. Instead we should be what we are and do what we want to do.

On a lighter note,  I was just thinking men are expected to feel STRONG. Even the expectations of men makes them superior, but women are expected to feel VULNERABLE. So biased i say!!! :) Hehheee :)

Woman was taken out of man; not out his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to complement him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.” All of us have issues, all of us make sacrifices; what is important is that we  appreciate it and learn to respect each other.

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